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Why formula might be your best option

Simple answer: Formula feeding is easier. (at least for me)

I always thought I’d be one of those moms that breastfed my kids til they were 18 and going off to college.  Donating a million ounces to babies in need was also part of my breast feeding dream.  No matter how hard I tried  with all 4 girls, nursing was never what I imagined. It sucked.

Before my milk even came in my nipples hurt like hell and looked like raw chewed up ground beef. Nothing like the women in the breastfeeding pamphlets/videos with perfect Hershey kiss nipples. The excruciating pain continued for about 2-3 weeks except my nipples were now even more raw and cracked. They were pretty much chewed all the way through from a baby that has no teeth.  I was miserable.  The precious first weeks of having a newborn were not as enjoyable as they  should’ve been because I was too caught up in breastfeeding . It honestly hurt more than the labor and delivery. Either way, I was determined to make it work.

I researched, I talked to the breast is best people, I tried everything including:

    • Lanolin
    • Calendula Cream
    • breast milk
    • cold packs,
    • warm packs,
    • vinegar,
    • Neosporin,
    • any other thing I read that was supposed to help.

 

After my milk came in with all 4, I would wake up feeling like I was drowning in my own milk because they leaked so much. I pumped to get some relive.   I pumped because I wanted everyone else to get to feed and bond with the baby.  Breastfeeding wasn’t bonding for me.  It was painful and annoying.

Not only was this natural way of feeding extremely painful, it was time consuming. How does a baby take that long to eat?  How much were they even getting? Why is it still hurting? Seriously, why is this baby attached to my boob?

After a long and painful almost 2 months, I was finally getting the hang of it and actually nursing in public like I’ve always dreamed of  instead of having to take off my whole shirt like I did at first and I have nothing left. I go from drowning to dried up.  Without warning.

I was determined to get my supply back so I tried:

Nothing.  Plus, the baby wasn’t gaining.  I finally did this…

 I gave up.  I felt great!

formula feeding is fine

 

Formula feeding was the best decision I ever made.

I was now able to be happy and enjoy my baby  and my life without worrying about my supply or how much they’re gaining or how much pain I’m in.  I bonded with the baby more, everyone bonded with the baby more because the baby wasn’t always on my boob. We were living life again. It was less stress.  I wish I would’ve started formula from day 1.  Formula was the best option for me.

 If breastfeeding is not working out for you, STOP.  Switch to formula.

There’s no shame in it, really there’s not.  I wish I would’ve done it sooner!
Ps… These Dr. Brown’s are really good bottles. I used them for .my last two babies.

9 thoughts on “Why formula might be your best option”

  1. As a CLEC (Certified Lactation Educator Counselor) I hate to say it – but I agree with you. I am trained to help women breastfeed… but the truth is, when it becomes a chore, a PAINFUL chore, instead of the bonding and easy experience it can be, then it’s time to stop. The health of the mother, both mental and physical, is paramount – because without a healthy mom, the baby suffers. I’m sorry that you had such a painful experience – congratulations on all 4 of your children! =)

    1. Thanks so much for your comment! I was so bummed it didn’t work out but at least I tried and all 4 are now healthy and thriving!!

  2. I started exclusively formula feeding after about 2 weeks with my daughter, she never latched and I was EXHAUSTED from pumping.
    Best decision I ever made hands down. I have a post on it too if you ever want to read it 🙂 (no pressure at all).
    Our doctor has told us multiple times that formula is now equivalent to breast milk so the notion that “breast is best” is stupid and frankly does my hard than good.
    Good for you on deciding whats best for you and your babies.
    Susan
    http://www.petitepepper.com

    1. I’m just now seeing this comment. Thanks for sharing. Awesome to hear that formula is better now! Can’t wait to checkout your post!!

  3. I had to start with formula right from the beginning because my milk took ages to come in. While I was like you and wanted it to work so bad, I had such a struggle because my son was born with a tongue tie. By the time I had gotten his tongue tie repaired (this was a month ago), I thought I could work to bring my milk back but nothing I did worked. I was heart broken because there really are some serious benefits to breastfeeding that my baby didn’t get a chance to take advantage of like other breast fed babies but sometimes it just doesn’t work for you or your baby.

    For me it was a perfect storm of things that led to it not working so I’ll have to wait and see what happens on the next time around.

    Thanks for sharing your story! It’s nice to know there are other moms out there who try but just can’t get it right.

  4. I love this post! I don’t understand the stigma around breastfeeding & the need to do it? I knew before I had my son that I would be formula feeding straight away and thats exactly what I did 🙂 I found it so much easier & convenient, my hubby and others could easily help & my son didnt need warm bottles so I could have his water sitting on my bedside table waiting until he was ready for a feed in the middle if the night, mix in his formula and I was ready to go without leaving my bed 🙂 Its a win win for everyone!
    I dont believe there’s any right or wrong way to feed your baby, do what u feel is right but if your original way isn’t working then don’t be scared to shake it up 😉

  5. So rough! It sounds like your baby had an undiagnosed tongue tie. Most providers don’t know how to properly evaluate for them, and since formula feeding is always an option proper tongue tie diagnosis is not usually a priority for a lot of providers since recommending formula is easier. Ties can cause very painful latches, feeding difficulties and low milk supply. It can also mean that it takes baby forever and a day to eat! Some babies actually have tongue tie so strong that they can’t even take a bottle, however, and a tie revision is necessary or tube feeding is the only other option. Fortunately ties this extreme are not super super common. When we got my daughter’s tongue tie properly diagnosed and revised, all of our issues went away. Just sharing so that you know what you experienced is in no way your or baby’s fault. I have a post on my blog called 10 things you need to know about tongue ties if you’re interested 🙂

    1. Thanks for sharing! I thought she may have had a lip tie but I can’t blame that for all 4 of kids. Thankfully everything worked out fine and they’re all healthy and thriving now!

  6. Thank you for sharing! I’m a mom of 6 and to this day I think breastfeeding is extremely difficult. I was in pain with my first 3 and dried up at sometime during the first year. Like you I tried everything. I would sit and cry every time it was time to nurse. My 4th child a tongue tie lip tie was diagnosed. Nursing was better so much better but slow weight gain. 😕 Much stress over that. The 5th child not one issue! 😊 The 6th child pain again. We had a tongue tie and her jaw had issues. I found a chiropractor that has worked on her jaw and I got her tongue clipped. It has been a painful and long journey. People that don’t have issues with breastfeeding just don’t understand. I’m glad you could find peace in formula feeding. Blessings

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